I’ll be honest, romance is not my strongest point. My wife and I have been happily married for 14 years. I have my moments like most guys but every Valentines day reminds me that I should make more romantic gestures throughout the year, not just on February 14th! As this date looms ever closer, the pressure of being romantic on Valentines days fills me with a little bit dread! So in this article, I showcase a few ideas on how to spend valentines day with your girlfriend or wife and in the process, give me a few ideas for myself.
There’s a very good chance that the beginning of your relationship was the time when you made the most effort to show her your romantic side, so why not turn back the clock and remind her how charming you were when you were first dating? Think back to your first date – make a reservation at the same place, eat the same food and reminisce about how you felt about her when you first met. Do the same things that first sparked your romance.
If you’re married – visit the place you got engaged….
Depending where in the World this is and how feasible, this is a lovely idea. For me unfortunately, this would be a 9 hour flight to Calgary and then a 2.5 hour drive from Calgary to Lake Louise. This was the most romantic thing i’ve ever done, or ever will probably. I waited for a clear starry night sky and took my wife to a frozen ice castle on Lake Louise and popped the question inside the ice castle, and the rest his history as they say. Here is a photo of that very ice castle in daylight. If money/time was no object, I would not hesitate and take my wife back here. I will one day for sure. But for you guys who got engaged in your own country, what are you waiting for!
2. Get Physical
No, not that kind of ‘physical’. With any luck, that’s where your Valentine’s Day date will end up, but you can start things off by getting your heart rates racing together doing something exciting like going ice skating, surfing, jet skiing etc.
The idea is to enjoy a little activity and get those endorphins flowing, which is proven to leave you both in loving moods.
3. Get a room!
Changing up your surroundings can give an automatic boost to your love life. It doesn’t have to be complicated — booking a hotel room, for example, can be a nice change to the day-to-day and can make you both feel instantly relaxed. Nobody’s responsible for doing the dishes or cooking dinner; instead you get to focus solely on each other in a new environment.
4. Stay Home, Cook her dinner
Sometimes the best Valentine’s Day gift you can give is the gift of uninterrupted time together doing nothing. You don’t need to leave the house to make Valentine’s Day special. Think of how great it could be to spend the entire day in bed together, without interruption. For us that may prove a little difficult as we have two young boys! But for those of you without kids, turn off your phones, don’t answer the door and enjoy each other. Have a flutter on an online casino, you could win big and use it on a romantic getaway.
There’s nothing anyone loves more than being completely taken care of so wherever you’re planning on spending the night of Valentine’s Day, give her a dozen roses and a nice card (where you tell her how much she means to you) – personalised cards from Moonpig i’ve found work a treat, light some candles, cook her a nice dinner, give her a mini-massage, and tell her not to get up from the couch (or bed) all night long because this is her night and you want her to completely relax. No woman will complain.
5. Get away
If you’ve got the time, money and freedom, stretch your Valentine’s Day into a Valentine’s weekend away at a romantic resort far away or bed-and-breakfast nearby.
Do some research a few weeks before and send her three options, so she won’t be completely thrown off guard and can book the time off if needed. Then sweep her off her feet (or, out of wherever you live). This way you can combine the relaxation of a mini-vacation with time spent alone together. Who says no to a vacation?
6. Make a path of rose petals
Anticipation is half the fun of a romantic surprise. Start the excitement when she walks in the door by leaving a trail of rose petals leading to the bedroom, where she’ll find Valentine’s Day gifts.
Feel free to go all out with the heart-shaped box of chocolates, red-and-white teddy bears and Lovehearts. Today is the one day she won’t say no to cheesy romance.
7. Go for a massage
Ladies love being pampered so going for a massage together is a winner. Either book her a full-body massage at her favourite spa, or include yourself and book a couple’s massage. A relaxing massage is just the thing to get both of you in the mood for Valentine’s Day.